Saturday, March 29, 2014

Peacemaker Toolbox: 10 STEPS to Constructing PEACE

10 Steps to CONSTRUCTING Peace

Make every effort to keep the unity of the Spirit through the bond of peace. -- Ephesians 4:3

Today, I ask myself this question, "What is the consequence of raising children who do not know how to make peace in times of conflict?"

It has been a long journey for me to stand on a platform asking this question. 

A peacemaker is thought to be a diplomat who brings opposing sides in to agreement.   

As a child whenever there was conflict with my brothers, the resounding response from my parents was "Go to your room and come out when you have a smile on your face." 

There was no arbitration. I was not taught communication skills to bring about reconciliation. 

This proved to be detrimental to my adult life. 

In times of conflict I insisted on being heard. I would go about manipulating the argument to persuade my opponent. When my efforts failed, I'd escalate the intimidation with critical and condemning words. I blamed. My responsibility in the issue was ignored as I stirred up drama so that my opponent could not develop a reasoned argument.

All this to say, rejection and abandonment littered the landscape of my adult life. 

One fabulously, fateful day I committed to seeking God for relief. I couldn't be rejected and cast aside again. I knew I was the problem not my circumstances.

In my earnestness, God was faithful to answer me. It has taken several years for this story to unfold and I'm certain this story will continue to play out for the rest of my days. 

Jesus is the Prince of Peace (Isaiah 9:6). I look to His sacrifice for my salvation, I also can seek Him as the truth to live by. My studying of His life and His teaching has given me great insight and practical tools for creating peace. 

Blessed are the peacemakers, for they will be called children of God. -- Matthew 5:9 

Grace and Peace to you, Edy